Simple tips on being less emotionally reactive

Something I’ve been working on has been to be less emotionally reactive.

Last year I was in a soup of circumstances that brought out what I perceived to be the worst in me.

Observing myself- I didn’t like what I saw. If something didn’t go to plan I’d freak out. Code red, the world was ending. I felt like a victim and lamented my lot in life. Nine times out of ten I wouldn’t express my anger or frustration, I’d keep it on the inside, but I’d be raging on the inside nonetheless.

I always thought I was a dude that was fairly emotionally intelligent, but the incidents last year showed me that area of life could do with a little bit of work.

When faced with a setback, instead of reacting right away I now do the following:

1. Breath deep and chill out. Breath in 2-3 times if necessary.
2. I ask myself “What do I want to create in this moment? In this moment…. what’s the best outcome that I’m gunning for?”
3. Holding that intention I then do what I have to do

This saves me from being a reactive victim and helps me consciously be my best self when things aren’t necessarily going the way I want them to go.

Since doing this in the past few weeks I’ve had a happier home life, had way more peace with myself and have generally been far more optimistic and solutions focused ????Try doing the 3 things listed above, highly recommended! 

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